Maybe Sondra! All I'm saying is, seeing how bad other people have it sure lends some perspective. For me, it sure did minimize all the problems I thought I had. More gratefulness makes us happier. We can't change the past anyway. Being able to have the time to "Find ourselves" is such a privileged thing to be able to do anyway. People who are just trying to find the next thing to eat don't have any time for thinking about their life's purpose or self-care. Just a reality that I think might clear up a lot of issues for a lot of people.